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Being an outsider in a group, and still bringing in your presence and wisdom

Posted in balanced stillness,Managing our emotions,outsider and insider,self regulation by Rashmi Datt on January 17th, 2018

You are in a typical social scenario: you are with a group of friends or colleagues at dinner for an off site, alumni reunion, etc. Everyone seems to be having the time of their lives. Selfies, jokes, laughter. But none of this makes sense to you . You are bored with the trivia, meaningless conversation, […]

Those sticky velcro thoughts

Posted in Managing our emotions,self regulation,Uncategorized by Rashmi Datt on February 9th, 2017

I visited an Acupuncture clinic recently, and after the 3rd visit (I was advised a minimum of 12 sessions), I noticed a redness on my left calf in the evening- and a soreness. The following day, it had swollen up and was painful. I was to travel for 3-4 days, and didn’t think it was […]

EQ for Leaders – Tuning into others

One of the traits I notice in myself is that I am quick to find faults in others, and slow to recognize their gifts and strengths. I wonder if this is a defensive mechanism for me to feel safe- cocooned in the false belief that I am better than others. It’s exhilarating to think I’m […]

I’m better than you—na-nah na-nah poo- pooh!

Posted in Uncategorized by Rashmi Datt on August 29th, 2014

We met these family friends after a long time. The wife taught the nursery class in a school. As we chit-chatted, I was ‘Darn, I don’t have much in common with her. What will we talk about?’ The accompanying feeling was that of superiority-which is a bit embarrassing for me now to admit. For after […]

‘Being in awe of’- What does it do to you?

Posted in Uncategorized by Rashmi Datt on August 24th, 2014

Yesterday was the birthday of a person I am in awe of. She is a colleague, one can say, as she is in the same profession; but someone who I regard as being ‘ahead of’ me~ in terms of capability and perhaps in knowing herself. I met her at a retreat where she was my […]

The second weapon to guard your dignity

Posted in Uncategorized by Rashmi Datt on January 26th, 2014

Centering Yourself, and just being Impeccably Polite There is a wonderful story about Mandela, which shows how even in circumstances where even though seemingly powerless- he still put his opponent on the defensive. All he did was to be so scrupulously polite, that there was no option but to reciprocate with politeness. The prisoners in […]

Two weapons to guard your dignity -part 1

Posted in Uncategorized by Rashmi Datt on January 26th, 2014
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Define your own rules of the game (what is acceptable what is not) Recently I was with a client who took a lot of my time. They were pleasant enough, but got very easily distracted into side conversations which were nothing to do with the topic or problem at hand. It was a family business, […]

‘Mirror, mirror, who is the most irritating of them all?’

To form a successful relation with others, we need to relate with our own negative qualities I had been feeling guilty about not spending enough time with some houseguests who were staying for the weekend. Being in their seventies, the couple was quite happy to chat with my mother who had also come over to […]

The art of networking and selling

Posted in Networking/Marketing/Selling by teamrashmi@etlabs on May 2nd, 2012

Many businessmen do good quality work but are hesitant or squeamish about selling their goods or services. I have met several who say ‘I’m not good at it’ or ‘its demeaning to make business calls’. But the truth is that selling like any other work requires planning, persuading and perseverance. Recently I was at a […]

Self-regulation or the art of locking the door before the horse bolts

Posted in Managing our emotions,Personal Effectiveness by teamrashmi@etlabs on May 2nd, 2012

A lot of the times we end up saying or doing something we regret later.  One aspect of Emotional Intelligence is self-regulation- or impulse control, or simply self-control. Recently I was discussing this subject with Prof Sudhir Jain, Director of the new IIT at Gandhinagar, who is a rare combination of an academic with international […]

Managing Emotions at the Workplace (2): Communicating confidently with a tough boss

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What is assertive behaviour? Assertiveness is the middle ground between aggression and passivity. It is about reasonable behaviour and finding solutions that suit both sides. Assertiveness means: Acknowledging your own feelings to yourself (“My boss gives me bits and pieces of tasks without total responsibility of the entire project, and I am feeling restless and unfulfilled”); Understanding […]

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